When the pursuit of dreams looks anything but dreamy

   Yesterday, I took Leyla to the park.  She laughed and played, and occasionally asked for my help, which I gently refused.  There were two other moms there. They were cute. They did planks and squats while their children ran around. While they weren't all made up ... Their hair was neatly pulled back and

An insanely bittersweet day: How I really feel about our adoption

3 years ago today, our lives changed profoundly. Leyla moved in. Maddy gained a sister. Ryan and I gained a daughter.  And our friends Darin & Deanna, with their two girls, let go of the baby they had raised since birth. They were really her only family... Until we came along. Just weeks before we

  • The truth about how I love (and don't love) my foster child's mom

The truth about how I love (and don’t love) our foster child’s mom

    I remember the first time I almost hugged *her.*   We had just ended my foster son Z's developmental playgroup and were walking out together. She and I didn't interact much during the week -- but this was a short time we had together. A time where she saw Z interact with me,

What every mom needs to hear from the pulpit on Mother’s Day

Dear pastors on the day before Mother's Day, No doubt you've just about finished up your sermon by now. Perhaps you are applying the finishing touches to your message, creating the slides to pass off to your tech team, or figuring out which mothers you'll have stand to be recognized (oldest mother, newest mother, etc.)

My top 5 truths about parenting after infertility and loss

My story is a little different than many of yours. My infertility came AFTER my firstborn child. And so maybe for me, parenting after loss or infertility is a little different. I was already mothering a live human before life struck hard. But I really think no matter how we came to this parenting-after-loss-and-infertility gig,