An insanely bittersweet day: How I really feel about our adoption

3 years ago today, our lives changed profoundly. Leyla moved in. Maddy gained a sister. Ryan and I gained a daughter.  And our friends Darin & Deanna, with their two girls, let go of the baby they had raised since birth. They were really her only family... Until we came along. Just weeks before we

  • The truth about how I love (and don't love) my foster child's mom

The truth about how I love (and don’t love) our foster child’s mom

    I remember the first time I almost hugged *her.*   We had just ended my foster son Z's developmental playgroup and were walking out together. She and I didn't interact much during the week -- but this was a short time we had together. A time where she saw Z interact with me,

What every mom needs to hear from the pulpit on Mother’s Day

Dear pastors on the day before Mother's Day, No doubt you've just about finished up your sermon by now. Perhaps you are applying the final touches to your message, creating the slides to pass off to your tech team, or figuring out which mothers you'll have stand to be recognized (oldest mother, newest mother, etc.)

My top 5 truths about parenting after infertility and loss

My story is a little different than many of yours. My infertility came AFTER my firstborn child. And so maybe for me, parenting after loss or infertility is a little different. I was already mothering a live human before life struck hard. But I really think no matter how we came to this parenting-after-loss-and-infertility gig,

Why I regret sharing my photo with Ellen DeGeneres

Dear Ellen, I like you a lot. I really do. But I have to be super honest with you. I kinda regret sending you a photo recently.  Maybe you saw it, but chances are -- you never will. (Chances are you'll never read this blog either. But maybe I just really need to write it