8 ways you can honor your grief while celebrating the holidays

I'll never forget my first Christmas after loss. Less than a week before that Christmas, my fallopian tube ruptured, and we lost the little baby we had already loved so much. In the midst of my loss, I went on a mini vacation with family where I was expected to shop, eat dinner out, and otherwise behave normally. I

Open adoption through foster care: a second chance to connect our daughter with her bio family

  When a foster child comes into your home, they do not come alone. They come with history. I'm not talking about the "stuff" of foster care: the what's and how's and when's of deep loss and love. I'm talking about the who's. When our daughter Leyla came into our lives through foster care, we

To the mama who is waiting

I have spent a fair amount of time waiting over the last several years. Waiting for a foster license. For a foster baby. For a court date. For an adoption. For the time to say hello. For the time to say good-bye. For a chance to say hello again. Waiting for a diagnosis. For a

There’s just something about a mother’s eyes

"The chicken needs a bit more salt," I advised as I handed over the brown paper sack stuffed with the makings of a taco dinner. She took the bag, this perfect stranger, and looked back at me with her crystal-clear Lake Louise eyes. "The procedure worked," she sob-spoke back to me. And I saw it

  • Wonderful You Giveaway + Book Review

Wonderful You: Giveaway + Book Review

"This one, mommy."   "OK," I say in a voice much more cheerful than I feel.   My daughter plucks a book out of the basket in which we keep our weekly plunder from the library. The cover shows an unusually rotund woman on the front, with a cover that insinuates, "This is where all