My top 5 truths about parenting after infertility and loss

My story is a little different than many of yours. My infertility came AFTER my firstborn child. And so maybe for me, parenting after loss or infertility is a little different. I was already mothering a live human before life struck hard. But I really think no matter how we came to this parenting-after-loss-and-infertility gig,

Tonight, I light a candle

October 15 is Infant and Pregnancy Loss Awareness Day. Bereaved parents, or anyone who has been affected by infant and pregnancy loss, are encouraged to participate in the wave of light. At 7 pm your local time, light a candle in remembrance of your baby, and together, we'll create a wave of light around the

One phrase you MUST NOT SAY to an adoptive mom — and 8 reasons why

I've heard it. You've heard it. Maybe you've said it. You know someone. I know someone. Maybe you know 10 someones. And yet saying it is seriously not cool.  "As soon as you adopt, you'll get pregnant." Here are 8 reasons why you should never say this to an adoptive mom. 1  -- No one

  • What is 4?

What is 4?

I am not OK. It's easier for me to pretend that I am when I'm with my parents. I get distracted (like helping my dad navigate FB, and helping him start a blog.) My mom pumps me full of delicious food. They help take care of the kids. For a time, a short time, I

Why miscarriage matters when you’re pro-life

Back in my former life, I was a proofreader. We were a fabulous group of gals. But, I'm not going to lie -- we were pretty nitpicky. And NOT the most popular in the office. In fact, we had not just one book, but multiple books by which we would mentally check each word, each phrase, each sentence. We