5 things you should never to say to a woman whose baby has died

Tonight, I went to our local chapter of M.E.N.D -- a pregnancy loss support meeting. And you know what? People are saying the same old ignorant, hurtful things to women having a pregnancy loss as they did when I first had mine -- and probably have said since the dawn of time. I know I

I am 1 in 4

I am your friend. Your coworker. Your barista. Your accountant. Your personal trainer.   You see me at the grocery store with my kids. My baby swaddled up to my chest, my two older kids hanging off the cart I push around. You comment on how full my arms are. I smile on the outside. On the inside,

A whisper-cry of worship

Before I even opened my eyes this morning, a song was on my heart. "My soul .... Put your hope in God. Put your hope in God. Put your hope in God. Be still my soul." It was a song I learned last fall from the worship team I had just recently joined.  I spent

Why “<3" will never be enough

        Have you ever had a hurt that just hurt too much to bear on your own?   Today, that was me. I was up at 3 am, hurting, and felt alone.   I searched Facebook. Where I can post and get support without feeling shame for being so emotional? After all,

When Christmas is hard

    A thought keeps running through my mind.  "I wish holiday stress was just about getting the right gifts, hosting family, and managing a full schedule of parties and commitments. Anything but THIS." I don't know what your THIS is. In the past, our THIS has been the worry of premature birth and a traumatic