|This is me. Looks fun right? I look happy? Yep. I was happy. And freaking terrified.
Right after this picture was taken, the people in the backgound started shaking the bridge.
I ran (I mean RAN) off that bridge. Want to know why?
(I had hoped to get this post up yesterday, except I fell asleep writing it. Oops. Better done than perfect, right??)
So … How was the last 48 hours, thinking about your big events?
Maybe you’ve already felt it starting this workshop. I know I have. It sounded like a great idea in my brain. Until I wrote out the first post.
And then doubt crept it ….
What if no one reads it? What if I’m the only person who does the activities? What if there are no comments, and every one can see that I’m just a fake when it comes to leadership and mentoring?
Worse, what if I turn people away from my blog? What if they need someone to grieve with them — and not someone to cheerlead? What if I don’t have the right words to make an impact?
It all sounds kinda irrational right now. But the fear was real. Paralyzing even. It made me not want to hit publish. And then when I DID hit publish, I regretted it and wanted to take it back to draft.
But I didn’t. Sometimes, all you need is 20 seconds of bravery.
20 seconds could change everything . . .
#3 Fear keeps you average. Which is fine if you want an average life. But if you want more? Then you have to learn to control your fear, instead of letting fear control you.
Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.
It will make our palms sweat, our hearts race, our adrenaline flow. It has the power to paralyze. Fear doesn’t take reality into consideration. It’s based almost entirely on emotion. We fear sharks (well, maybe just I do) while watching Shark Week — even though we are comfortably seated in our living room, just about as far away from a tropical beach as one could get.
Sometimes fear makes sense. And sometimes it doesn’t. Like the fear of success? Why is it we fear EXACTLY what we are working toward? And then the opposite, the fear of failure.
But here’s where we need an injection of truth.
Fear has killed more dreams than failure could ever touch.
What dreams has fear killed for you?
So let’s journal or blog . . .
What has living by fear cost you? What has your living by fear cost others around you? What fears do you have that make sense? And which ones are False Evidence Appearing Real?
|Here’s that bridge again. Guess what’s beneath it?|
|This 9-foot-long hammerhead shark. And his friend. Just to make things extra terrifying.
Can you guess that sharks just might be one of my biggest fears??