• If grief doesn't always look like grief -- what does it look like?

When grief doesn’t look like grief

Sometimes sadness looks like anger. Sometimes depression looks like numbness. Sometimes anxiety looks like underwhelm. Sometimes acceptance looks like staying put and not moving on. Sometimes loss looks like love. Sometimes self-preservation looks like fear. Sometimes joy feels like betrayal. Sometimes moving forward means taking steps back. Sometimes you feel it all.   Sometimes you

A letter to my rainbow baby

Dear baby, I sit here tonight, and try to envision what life will be like with you here in my arms. And when that day comes, I'll have to remember what life was like before you entered our world. Looking ahead, or looking back, my vision shifts. As I focus my eyes on you, there

To the unsung heroes of Father’s Day

To the unsung heroes of Father's Day´╗┐ I wonder if this is how pastors feel delivering a sermon for Mother's Day. After all, they aren't moms themselves. But they have to somehow encourage moms, and speak as though they get it. Likewise, I've never been a bereaved father. But I feel it's really important to