Open adoption through foster care: a second chance to connect our daughter with her bio family

  When a foster child comes into your home, they do not come alone. They come with history. I'm not talking about the "stuff" of foster care: the what's and how's and when's of deep loss and love. I'm talking about the who's. When our daughter Leyla came into our lives through foster care, we

  • Wonderful You Giveaway + Book Review

Wonderful You: Giveaway + Book Review

"This one, mommy."   "OK," I say in a voice much more cheerful than I feel.   My daughter plucks a book out of the basket in which we keep our weekly plunder from the library. The cover shows an unusually rotund woman on the front, with a cover that insinuates, "This is where all

  • One REALLY BIG consideration to make before referring gorilla mom to CPS

One REALLY BIG consideration you must make before referring gorilla mom to CPS

As my husband and I lay in bed, exhausted from putting the kids down to bed -- then back to bed -- then back to bed -- then back to bed for the last time -- we finally fell into each others arms, and chatted about the various parts of our day.  Casually he mentions, "Did

  • What it's like to return a foster child

What it’s really like to return a foster child

Our foster son, Z.   This post will not win me any friends.   I already know that.   But there is this burning in my gut that I just can't ignore. Maybe because it is too close. It hasn't quite been 3 months since we did the unthinkable.   We took our