• If grief doesn't always look like grief -- what does it look like?

When grief doesn’t look like grief

Sometimes sadness looks like anger. Sometimes depression looks like numbness. Sometimes anxiety looks like underwhelm. Sometimes acceptance looks like staying put and not moving on. Sometimes loss looks like love. Sometimes self-preservation looks like fear. Sometimes joy feels like betrayal. Sometimes moving forward means taking steps back. Sometimes you feel it all.   Sometimes you

  • 6 things you do differently in pregnancy after loss

6 Things You Do Differently in Pregnancy After Loss

Pregnancy comes with a lot of expectations. From home pregnancy tests to routine prenatal care to baby showers, expecting moms often breeze through these milestones with ease. Sure there are the heartburn complaints and the swollen feet to deal with ... But most pregnant women expect their pregnancy to be normal. And you know what?

Having a Baby After Loss: 7 Feelings that Might Catch You by Surprise

After 5 years of trying for a baby -- and 5 losses along the way -- I was ready to call it quits. I asked my husband to get a vasectomy. He said he wasn't ready to be done. I told him my body seemed to have made that decision for us. But after a

A letter to my postpartum self

Dear postpartum body of mine, Most of the time, I start letters with something like, "You know, it's been awhile since we talked ..." Except that would be a lie. I talk to you all the time. In fact, you may be cringing now, wondering what I might have to critique you on today. After

My victory cry

This morning as I made pancakes, I put on a show I never thought I would watch. A show called One Born Every Minute. It’s a documentary showcasing 2-3 couples during labor & delivery. Not normally my cup of tea. (And since it’s filmed in the UK, there’s a lot of tea to be had.)