First, this post is all about Z. If you hadn’t guessed.
Second, this post is all about hitting the “snooze” button. Because basically, that’s exactly what has happened with Z’s case, as I found out at today’s social worker visit.
For those of you who follow me on Facebook, you probably saw that my mom recently had to say good-bye to Z . . . as she wasn’t sure she would get to see him again before he had to return home. This was emotional and hard for all of us — except Z. He’s still pretty clueless, cute little baby.
|Mom and Z saying good-bye|
Well, today, I was happy to tell my mom there’s a chance she might get to see him again.
Z’s case has sort of been put on a pause.
Obviously, the clock is still moving. But instead of having a big “green” light toward him returning home at the end of summer, early fall . . . it now looks like a “yellow” light. Proceed with caution. It looks like he’ll be with us through the fall, and maybe longer. (Nothing is final until it’s final — so even this is just a guesstimate. As my friend Bethany says, foster care teaches you to take it one day at a time.)
While I’m not a fan of delaying permanency, as we are QUITE attached and keep getting more attached as the days go on . . . I do agree with caution and being realistic. If he is going to return home, I want it to be stable and safe. And I’d rather us all go forward with eyes open, than to get a call after he returns home that someone got hurt or worse.
|Maddy loving on her brother|
After last week, I was dreading seeing our social workers. I assumed that I would actually be getting a date today. Or at least a certain month that he would return home. And I also was embarrassed about the fall at the allergist’s office and the possible CPS investigation.
Apparently, our social worker and guardian ad litem didn’t even know that CPS was considering investigating me. They knew about the ER visit, and that I had to self-report — but they hadn’t heard that CPS had called me back and was considering a full investigation.
They totally didn’t understand why I told them it all stressed me out . . . until I explained that a similar situation had happened to a friend, and her baby did get taken away. (Though I want you to know that it was a ridiculous call, and they were found clear of any wrongdoing.) Our social worker was totally annoyed that CPS considered investigating, and said that he had just lost some respect for his own department. He said he has a full year of health & safety reports on me that he would have been happy to submit proving that I’m a capable and safe parent. He also told me he was prone to accidents as a child, and knows that “this stuff happens.”
It was honestly so reassuring.
We have court next week for Z’s case. It’s not a permanency hearing, but just a review. As usual, I’ll have to fill out a court report. Z has a lot of medical testing to do in the next few months, so I know there is a lot to update the court on.
|Goofy boy wants to do the splits|
Between his appointments, Maddy’s appointments and tummy issues, and both girls starting school this fall — there certainly is a lot going on around here.
As almost every person in the grocery store comments as I pass by with my entourage, “it looks like I have my hands full.”
And I do. But in spite of all the challenges of having kids in the way I have them — I’m really grateful to have them each here with me. They are a handful of blessing.